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Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Kindle Edition
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Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, coworkers, and even themselves, in order to live life to the fullest.
Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control? Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits? Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems? In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life.
Boundaries, a New York Times bestseller, will give you the tools you need to learn to say yes and know how to say no. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries.
Since it was first published, Boundaries has supported millions of people around the world as they discover the importance of understanding their limitations and upholding their boundaries. In this updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend answer the most common questions they've received in more than thirty years that they've studied the science behind establishing boundaries:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
- How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
- Aren't boundaries selfish?
Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!
From the Publisher
WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING
“I’ve been recommending Boundaries to friends, team members and radio listeners for more than twenty years.”
—Dave Ramsey, bestselling author and nationally syndicated radio show host
“This life-changing book is still the go-to guide for healthy relationships, personal growth, and true freedom in Christ.”
—Andy Stanley, pastor, author, communicator, and Founder of North Point Ministries
“Of every book that I’ve read, Boundaries is the one I recommend most often.”
—Craig Groeschel, pastor of Life.Church and New York Times bestselling author
WHAT CAN I EXPECT TO LEARN FROM THIS BOOK?
Boundary Setting Is a Large Part of Maturing
We can’t really love until we have boundaries—otherwise we love out of compliance or guilt. And we can’t really be productive at work without boundaries; otherwise we’re so busy following others’ agendas that we’re double-minded and unstable (James 1:8). The goal is to have a character structure that has boundaries and that can set limits on self and others at the appropriate times.
Boundaries Define Us
They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership.
Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. If I know where my yard begins and ends, I am free to do with it what I like. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. However, if I do not “own” my life, my choices and options become very limited.
The Law of Power
To see another person as the problem to be fixed is to give that person power over you and your well-being. Because you cannot change another person, you are out of control. The real problem lies in how you are relating to the problem person. You are the one in pain, and only you have the power to fix it.
Many people have found immense relief in the thought that they have no control over another person and that they must focus on changing their reactions to that person.
|Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life||Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships||Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships||Boundaries in Marriage: The Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships||Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children||Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No|
|Other Boundaries Books by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend||Designed to help you create your own life-giving boundaries, this perfect companion to Boundaries provides practical wisdom for setting boundaries in a highly connected digital age.||For when your trust has been broken: discover how to set firm boundaries again, how to connect deeply without being hurt, and how to safely grow your most intimate relationships.||Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage.||Learn when to say yes and how to say no in the context of your marriage relationship. Once you have boundaries in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.||Yes, you can say no to your child and still be a loving parent. Discover how setting biblical boundaries can make your parenting better today!||Establish wise and loving limits that make a positive difference in your teen, in the rest of your family, and in you.|
From the Publisher
The Boundaries video kit includes: 1 90-minute video (not sold separately) 1 Boundaries Leader's Guide (additional copies sold separately) 1 Boundaries Participant's Guide (additional copies sold separately) 1 copy Boundaries hardcover book (additional copies sold separately) 1 clamshell-style carrying case--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
- ASIN : B06XFKNB2Y
- Publisher : Zondervan; Enlarged edition (Oct. 3 2017)
- Language : English
- File size : 5232 KB
- Simultaneous device usage : Up to 5 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
- Print length : 352 pages
- Page numbers source ISBN : B09NMBMDV8
- Best Sellers Rank: #1,521 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
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While this may suit the needs of the religion-oriented individual (i.e. bible), I was personally looking for a psychology-oriented reading on this topic and will not finish it. //
Dans ce livre, les limites sont examinées d'un point de vue BIBLIQUE, il y a parfois jusqu'à 6 références par page. Après tout, la description derrière le livre le mentionne. Cependant, je ne m'attendais pas à autant de référence et je croyais que ce serait plus orienté sur la psychologie. C'est une lecture que je ne terminerai malheureusement as.
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If you want to know about boundaries from the perspective of a psychotherapist read the book by Anne Katherine which is very good. I would have given this book more stars if I'd have bought it knowing it was from a religious perspective.
This is so challenging and is reshaping 36 years of indoctrination. I have been taught that to be a good Christian, a good friend, a good daughter and a good person, I must constantly deny myself, repent of my emotions, put others first, always focus on the needs of others, NEVER talk about how I feel or challenge anyone on how they are behaving because that would be selfishness, arrogance and create conflict which is the opposite to the biblical command to live in peace with everyone.
I have burnt out trying to live like this and I desperately needed a different world view but at the same time I am terrified of being selfish, immature or not reflecting God’s love and generosity because I want to please God more than anything.
Thank you God for this book! I think I will need to read it a second and third time to really absorb it all but I can see glimmers of a peace and freedom I’ve never had before. A life where I can enjoy being loved by God without feeling I have perpetual let him down by not showing enough grace or generosity. A life where I can draw my own boundaries in relationships without feeling I have denied my responsibility to be the hands and feet of Jesus. A life where I can let others make their own decisions without fearing that I will have to rush in and clear up the pieces.
I am so grateful to God for this book!