Dr. Robert A Glover
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About Dr. Robert A Glover
Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Running Press, 2003)
Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications.
Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.
As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships.
Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men, the director of TPI University, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington.
Dr. Glover divides his year between Bellevue, WA and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.
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“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models.
“I have read every self-help book out there, but this was the first that put everything together in a way that made perfect sense to me.”
“Every page of my copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy is highlighted in yellow. How did you know me so well?
A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others.
The Nice Guy Syndrome typically begins in infancy and childhood when a young boy inaccurately internalizes emotional messages about himself and the world. It is fueled by toxic shame and anxiety. Rapid social change in the late 20th century and early 21st century has contributed to a worldwide explosion of men struggling to find happiness, love, and purpose.
The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. Nice Guys believe:
- If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.
- If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
- If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.
Since the publication of No More Mr. Nice Guy in 2003, hundreds of thousands of men worldwide have learned how to release toxic shame, soothe their anxiety, face their fears, connect with men, embrace their passion and purpose, and experience success in work and career. These men have also learned to set boundaries, handle conflict, make their needs a priority, develop satisfying relationships, and experience great sex.
This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:
Social anxiety and shyness
Loneliness and hopelessness
Feelings of failure
Lack of confidence and purpose
Compulsive behaviors and addictions
Feeling stuck in life
"He leído todos los libros de autoayuda que existen, pero este fue el primero que unió las cosas en una forma que tuviera sentido para mí".
"Cada página de mi copia de ¡Basta ya de ser un Tipo Lindo! está subrayada con marcador amarillo. He comprado y regalado innumerables copias”
Según el Dr. Robert Glover, un experto pionero en el síndrome del Tipo Lindo, un Tipo Lindo es un hombre que cree que no está bien ser tal cual como es. Está convencido de que debe convertirse en lo que cree que los demás quieren que sea para ser querido, amado y ver sus necesidades satisfechas. También cree que debe ocultar cualquier cosa sobre sí mismo que pueda desencadenar una respuesta negativa en los demás.
El síndrome del Tipo Lindo por lo general comienza en la infancia, cuando un niño erróneamente internaliza mensajes emocionales sobre sí mismo y el mundo. Es mayormente impulsado por la vergüenza tóxica y ansiedad. Drásticos cambios en la sociedad a finales del siglo 20 y principios del siglo 21 han contribuido a una explosión mundial de hombres batallando para encontrar la Felicidad, amor y propósito.
El paradigma del síndrome del Tipo Lindo es manejado por 3 contratos encubiertos erróneos. Los Tipos Lindo creen que:
1. Si soy bueno seré querido y amado.
2. Si cubro las necesidades de otra persona sin que tengan que decirlo, ellos cubrirán mis necesidades sin que tenga que decirlo.
3. Si hago todo bien, tendré una vida tranquila y libre de problemas.
El enfoque inauténtico y camaleónico de la vida hace que los Tipos Lindos a menudo se sientan frustrados, confundidos y resentidos. Subsecuentemente, estos hombres a menudo son cualquier cosa menos Lindos. Los patrones comunes de los Tipos Lindos incluyen dar para obtener, dificultad para establecer límites, ser deshonestos, ser sobreprotectores, querer arreglar todo, ser codependientes, complacer a las personas, evitar conflictos, agresividad pasiva, relaciones insatisfactorias, problemas con la sexualidad, masturbación compulsiva y uso de pornografía.
Desde la publicación de ¡Basta ya de ser un Tipo Lindo! En 2003, cientos de miles de hombres en todo el mundo han aprendido cómo liberar la vergüenza tóxica, calmar su ansiedad, enfrentar sus miedos, conectarse con otros hombres, abrazar su pasión y propósito, y experimentar el éxito en el trabajo y carrera. Estos hombres también han aprendido a poner límites, manejar conflictos, hacer de sus necesidades una prioridad, desarrollar relaciones satisfactorias, y experimentar gran sexo.
Este proceso de recuperación del síndrome del Tipo Lindo permite a los hombres lidiar con:
Ansiedad social y timidez
Soledad y desesperanza
Sentimientos de fracaso
Falta de confianza y propósito
Conductas compulsivas y adicciones
Sentirse atrapado en la vida
Contrariamente a lo que el título podría parecer implicar, ¡Basta ya de ser un Tipo Lindo! no enseña a los hombres cómo no ser agradables. El Dr. Glover muestra a los hombres cómo convertirse en lo que él llama Hombres Integrados.
If you struggle with dating, welcome to the club. Dating is not in our human DNA and ninety-eight percent of all men struggle with its most basic aspects. This struggle is often fueled by the fear of:
- Doing something wrong.
- Looking foolish.
- Getting rejected.
- Becoming a #MeToo casualty.
- Getting into a crappy relationship with no escape.
For most of his life, Dr. Glover, the author of the groundbreaking No More Mr. Nice Guy, was what he calls a “bad dater.” He assumed the women he wanted were not interested in him. He believed that women disliked sex and thought men who wanted sex were bad. When he did get a girlfriend by practicing what he calls “Nice Guy Seduction,” he typically hung on way too long for fear of having to enter the dating world all over again.
But this all changed when he got divorced in his mid-forties. Dr. Glover decided to approach dating as if it were a scientific experiment. To his surprise, he quickly found that talking with women, getting numbers, and getting laid was nowhere as difficult as he had thought. He often wondered what planet he had landed on.
Dating Essentials for Men was born of this experiment. Dr. Glover has since taught thousands of men how to interact confidently with women and find the love and sex they have been seeking.
Are you ready to let go of the games, the tricks, the seduction, the pickup, the negs, the cocky-funny routines, the buying women drinks, the volunteering to help their sister move? Do you want to learn how to create the kind of authentic attraction that naturally brings women to you? If so, Dating Essentials for Men is the only dating guide you will ever need.
Upon publication, Dating Essentials for Men hit such a nerve for single men that it became an instant Amazon #1 New Release – quite simply because it contains the best dating advice for men available. It is overflowing with tested, proven information that will help you:
- Identify your goals for dating – and achieve them.
- Face your fears and soothe your anxiety.
- Overcome your fear of rejection.
- Develop a powerful inner game.
- Talk to women with confidence.
- Know when a woman is interested in you and when she is not.
- Understand what women want in a man.
- Create powerful sexual polarity.
- Stay out of the friend zone.
- Effectively flirt and banter.
- Pass women’s shit tests.
As you practice the principles presented in Dating Essentials for Men, you will also be working on essential life skills. You will learn how to:
- Overcome self-limiting beliefs.
- Embrace your masculinity.
- Overcome shyness and social anxiety.
- Let go of attachment to outcome.
- Overcome your fear of rejection.
- Create healthy boundaries.
The Dating Essentials for Men philosophy is built on principles of conscious dating that teaches men how to create the kind of authentic polarity that naturally attracts women to them. It is a powerful alternative to games, tricks, seduction, pickup, negs, spinning plates, hypnosis, and cocky-funny routines – the staple of dating advice from so-called dating gurus and pickup artists.
The ground-breaking wisdom of DEFM came out of author Dr. Robert Glover’s personal experience of learning how to date in his late forties. A life-long bad dater, Glover decided to approach dating as if it were a scientific experiment. To his surprise, he quickly found that talking with women, getting numbers, dating multiple women, and experiencing frequent sex, was nowhere near as difficult as he had thought. He often wondered what planet he had landed on when he found women approaching him, propositioning him, and getting naked on first dates.
From this amazingly successful experiment, Dr. Glover created his Dating Essentials for Men coaching program which he has taught to thousands of men. Over the years, Dr. Glover has responded with candor, color, humor, and honesty to thousands of questions about all aspects of dating, relationships, women, and sex. This book, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, contains Dr. Glover’s answers to almost 300 frequently asked questions broken down into 97 subjects.
Dr. Glover gives countless gems of insight and information you will not find anywhere else:
“Thinking causes anxiety, acting cures it.”
“Test, don’t guess.”
“Women don’t put men in the friend zone, men put themselves there.”
“A woman can’t follow where a man doesn’t lead.”
“Women don’t f**k a man they have gotten to know; they get to know the man they want to f**k.”
Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions will help you:
- Overcome self-limiting beliefs
- Effectively test for interest
- Blast through your fear of rejection
- Become an integrated manwhore
- Create powerful polarity that naturally attracts the best women to you
- Let go of attachment to outcome
- Stay out of the friend zone
- Set the tone and take the lead
- Create positive emotional tension
- Embrace your sexual agenda
- Play kinky sex games
- Deal with getting ghosted
- Become a good ender