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About Elizabeth Cramer
Elizabeth Cramer is a sex therapist, BDSM educator, and the author of several best selling sex education books including “131 Dirty Talk Examples,” “Make Her Orgasm Again and Again,” “Care and Nurture for the Submissive,” “Submissive Training (vol. 1-3),” “Dom's Guide to Submissive Training (vol. 1-3).”
While pursuing her interests in psychology at college, Elizabeth learnt how to critically read and analyze people. This included herself, which is why at 23, she dared to reach out and touch a darker corner that interested her, something people only joked about at parties. She was looking into BDSM, and found many different communities built on the topic. Cautiously, her account was created to shyly prowl around the forums and read what people had to say.
It took eight months of lurking around on-line forums before Elizabeth finally picked up the courage to join her first meet-up. It wasn’t as awkward as she had thought, people were nice, encouraging, and it was like finding a new group of friends in which she could confide in about her slightly special preference. She embraced BDSM lifestyle fully and has never looked back since.
At age of 29, Elizabeth graduated with Master’s degree in psychology and earned certification for private therapy practice. While she was qualified in counselling for a variety of situations, she decided to focus on sex therapy. As a side business, she would speak as a part-time lecturer at her old university and others on the topic of sex education and human sexuality.
While her practice flourishes, in her spare time, Elizabeth writes books to enlighten the public on alternative lifestyles. She has also authored several romance novels and erotica.
In her personal life, Elizabeth and her Dominant partner have formed a perfect D/s relationship for over three years now. Though not yet married to him, she was able to find love in her life and still balance her work life.
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You can introduce elements of BDSM, role playing and kink into your “vanilla” bedroom, even if you’re thinking right about now, “My partner would never go for that!” What we’re going to show you in this book are tips on how to turn your “vanilla relationship” into something that you both can be excited and passionate about — a “dungeon of fun”, so to speak. You really can have the sexy and smoldering marriage you always wanted but never thought possible.
Here are some of the “troubleshooting” subjects we will cover in "The BDSM Code":
- Explaining BDSM to someone who doesn’t understand
- How to remove the stigma of “abusive” sex
- Why sexual kink is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of
- How to help yourself and your partner confront the most taboo of fears and fantasies
- How to repair a sexless marriage
- How to get over fear of your naked body (or your partner’s)
- How to be more dominant if you’re naturally shy
- And what to do if your kink or your partner’s kink is way over the top and freaky
By the end of the book you’re going to feel confident about talking to your partner about sex, fantasies and new ideas. We’re going to show you how to do it with class, good taste and above all, respect for the good relationship you have going.
"Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know On How To Be A Submissive" is designed to help you know what to expect when you go through training with a new Dom. Every couple is unique and every Dom may have different ways of teaching you the systems of service he prefers. However, these are the basics all trained subs and slaves learn and employ in daily life.
Rushing into a relationship or service contract with a Dom without training puts the future of your time together at risk. All of the arguments, resistance, misunderstandings and hurt feelings that go with a new submissive’s experiences can be eradicated by a period designated for learning, listening, trial and error.
Even if you have been with a previous Dom you will need to go through an abbreviated training time to ensure your patterns and understandings match one another. Training is a way to "get in the same rhythm” and find the perfect groove.
If you are a Dom, this guide is the perfect gift to give to your new sub. If you are a sub, this guide will teach you how to go through your submissive training. As you go through these things on the journey to become the woman you were made to be, you will be tested but you will also be proud, joyful and, perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be at peace.
Anyone can pick up an instrument and make noise, but to really play it takes knowledge, skill, and practice, practice, practice. Oral sex isn’t just a gift you give to him. It’s a gift you share together.
"Blow By Blow" will guide you, step by step, to the explosive orals that will "blow" his mind away. Once you start following these tips & tricks, your man will be willing to do almost anything for you. Not only you will be able to give really great blow jobs, more importantly, you will enjoy doing them yourself. And you will have him for good.
Here are some of the things you will learn in "Blow By Blow":
- How to be relaxed & have fun performing oral sex...
- Common mistakes that would turn any man off in an instant...
- Understand the sensitive parts of male member and the correct way to stimulate them...
- Positions & postures that give him maximum pleasure while cutting your effort in half...
- Safe sex, STD's, virus, & more...
- How to prevent sore jaws, achy backs, stiff neck, or knocked knees...
- How to deep throating without gagging...
- What to do with his "outcome"...
- What to do after he ejaculates...Do this wrong you will watch your efforts go down the drain!
- And much more...
The first thing to understand is that dirty talk isn’t dirty. There’s nothing shameful or wrong about it.
Men and women are hard-wired differently. Men like to hear, while women like to visualize, and that’s completely natural too. A man wants to hear what their partner wants done to them, or wants to do for them before it’s done. Hearing the words, screamed, moaned, whimpered, or whispered just flat out does it for most men.
Women like to hear the words and imagine what those words or phrases will mean to them, how their partner will react, or how something will feel, even seconds or milliseconds beforehand, giving their brains time to process the possibilities, thus heightening the sensations.
In this guide you will learn 131 tried-and-tested, proven-to-work phrases you can use for getting your partner in the mood, during foreplay, during & after love making. Both for-man & for-woman phrases are included. You will learn many ways to get started talking dirty and how to build it up gradually so you are comfortable & sound confident when you say them. Using correctly they will make your lover addicted to your voice & drive him/her wild in bed.
In "Dom's Guide to Submissive Training Vol. 2," I listed 25 things you must know about your new sub if you want to create a satisfying relationship with a devoted submissive. It's not enough to just ask “What do you like?” or “Would you like to be my sub?” You need to know things about your sub that are deeper, more practical and helpful.
Without the knowledge of these 25 things, you may be able to create momentarily excitement but it will surly turn into a frustrating short-term relationship headed for drama, disaster and end.
Following this guide allows your sub to communicate freely and provides a mechanism for her to reveal her true self – even if she doesn’t have the words to do so. There are a million things subs want their Doms to know. These questions will help your sub tell you.
As a sex educator and an active member in the BDSM community, I found most information floating around to be inaccurate and some even unhealthy. As a primer this guide will demystify the world of BDSM and present it in a straightforward and easy-to-understand way to you.
This guide is more than just a list of who and what. It is a map that will take you into the heart of the BDSM lifestyle, explore the motivations and expectations, and offer suggestions for the safe and sensual journey you are undertaking.
In "BDSM Primer for Women", you will learn:
- The vocabulary, roles, and rituals
- The reasons you may want to participate in this lifestyle
- Ways and places to get started
- Safety concerns and legal issues
- Emotions, consequences, and actions
- What actions meet what needs
- What kinds of fetishes meet what kinds of needs
- How to communicate healthfully
- How to create your sexual self
- And much more...
Fortunately, you don’t have to pay a hundred dollars for a specialty flogger or purchase a wedge from Extreme Restraints for three hundred bucks in order to be a great Dom and provide your sub with hours of bondage, spanking and fun.
Most of the things you need to give your submissive the spanking of a lifetime, a punishment to fit the crime, or just an incredible bondage experience can be found right in your own home. Your sub will not only enjoy the variety of experiences in her sessions but also appreciate your creativity.
"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training Vol. 3" gives you 31 common objects you already own or can purchase for minimal cost and keep right out in the open that will enhance your BDSM relationship and provide you and your sub hours of pleasure.
Aside from the cost savings, there is another benefit to using everyday objects in your BDSM training and session fun – discretion. Not every person can be seen walking down the street or through an airport with a leather whip in his hand or a wooden paddle in his bag. Many Doms must conceal their activities from employers, social circles, or vanilla spouses. Common objects make it easier to engage in important rituals without detection.
It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge.
"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips.
Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship – trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.
The discipline to hold your tongue, retrieve your paddle, or wait around endlessly while knot after knot is being tied as part of a bondage ritual drains your energy. Submission stretches, taxes, pushes, and exposes your body and soul to the whim and desire of another. Submissive women need support, care and nurture to continue on this journey in a healthy fashion.
"Care and Nurture for the Submissive" offers tips, understandings, and pathways to tend the fragile and beautiful souls of submissive women. Self-care is not selfish; it is essential. Only when you are taking care of yourself as a healthy, whole being can you give that self to another with a full heart and free joy.
Because fetish culture, like all cultures, grows and changes with the people who practice it, there are distinct roles and categories that developed to help women define their preferences and find like-minded people and playmates.
Women in BDSM relationships no longer have to start with the basic tenets of submission to wrap that skin around their differences. Now you can look into the whole spectrum of submissive behavior and find the place you feel most fulfilled and comfortable. From women who enjoy the occasional bondage session handcuffed to their headboard to the girls who want to be fed out of a bowl and locked in a crate at night – there is a place for everyone.
In this Submissive Training guide we will look at twelve subcultures of submission (including the New Misogyny), explaining the overall principles and practices of each one and illustrating the pros and cons inherent in each style of sexual diversity.
All people are different and you may not find one that covers everything you like, or don’t like – but chances are you’ll see something in one of these subcultures that makes you say, “That’s what I want.”
Online submission also allows for a sexual experience rooted in the world of fantasy. A woman can take on any role or persona she wants, and perform acts she would not be willing or able to do in real life. She can express emotion, devotion and talk as dirty as she likes without feeling self-conscious or uncomfortable. While the scenarios sometimes described in online submission can be pure fantasy (seemingly endless sexual romps with multiple orgasms and no pain or soreness), the feelings of lust, love, loyalty, friendship, and arousal are all very real and can be a part of a vibrant sexual life.
This Submissive Training guide will take you into the world of online submission, along with safety protocols and techniques for making the digital fantasy a physical reality. You will also learn how to make the transition from online submission to a real life meeting.
In "The BDSM Playbook," we’re going to review 51 scenes that you can try and adapt to your own lifestyle and routine. They are separated into categories of Beginners (sexual and nonsexual), Earning Trust, and Extreme Power Plays. These scenes will teach you characters, behaviors and thinking patterns that will help you forget yourself and start thinking in terms of finishing scenes and following your “natural” emotions.
They will also help you to let go of all inhibitions and give yourself to the scene, whether as a Dom or sub. All of the scenes are highly malleable to your own purposes. You can also add more players and delegate responsibility with multiple Doms or bring other subs into the scene to give the Dom even more power and enjoyment.
Once you try these 51 BDSM scenes, you will be an advanced player capable of creating even more captivating ideas!