I'm Glad My Mom Died Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
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A heartbreaking and hilarious memoir by iCarly and Sam & Cat star Jennette McCurdy about her struggles as a former child actor—including eating disorders, addiction, and a complicated relationship with her overbearing mother—and how she retook control of her life.
Jennette McCurdy was six years old when she had her first acting audition. Her mother’s dream was for her only daughter to become a star, and Jennette would do anything to make her mother happy. So she went along with what Mom called “calorie restriction,” eating little and weighing herself five times a day. She endured extensive at-home makeovers while Mom chided, “Your eyelashes are invisible, okay? You think Dakota Fanning doesn’t tint hers?” She was even showered by Mom until age sixteen while sharing her diaries, email, and all her income.
In I’m Glad My Mom Died, Jennette recounts all this in unflinching detail—just as she chronicles what happens when the dream finally comes true. Cast in a new Nickelodeon series called iCarly, she is thrust into fame. Though Mom is ecstatic, emailing fan club moderators and getting on a first-name basis with the paparazzi (“Hi Gale!”), Jennette is riddled with anxiety, shame, and self-loathing, which manifest into eating disorders, addiction, and a series of unhealthy relationships. These issues only get worse when, soon after taking the lead in the iCarly spinoff Sam & Cat alongside Ariana Grande, her mother dies of cancer. Finally, after discovering therapy and quitting acting, Jennette embarks on recovery and decides for the first time in her life what she really wants.
Told with refreshing candor and dark humor, I’m Glad My Mom Died is an inspiring story of resilience, independence, and the joy of shampooing your own hair.
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|Listening Length||6 hours and 26 minutes|
|Audible.ca Release Date||August 09 2022|
|Publisher||Simon & Schuster Audio|
|Best Sellers Rank|| #18 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) |
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Reviewed in Canada on November 12, 2022
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Or who knows someone who has—
CPTSD or experienced parental abuse.
The writing is accessible and balanved with the right amount of comedy without losing the gravity of the subject matter.
I finished the entire book within a day because I simply couldn't put it down.
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Right from page one, I was taken on a journey about her life growing up, the difficulties with her own mother with the emotional, physical AND psychological (going as FAR on her mother being in the shower with her until she was 17 while "examing" her in the process, made me gag) with being forced to be anorexic even as an 11-year old and parts of her adulthood made me cry really hard chapter by chapter and I couldn't even put down this book even for a second. None of the abuse that she has suffered isn't okay at all, child star or not, BAR NONE.
The stuff with her writing about the Creator made me really angry and sad especially the costume tests with the bikinis as she being underage at the time while her mother encouraging it truly horrified me to the core as I totally wished that I want to punch the Creator and even more after reading as justice for Jennette.
Also, the BTS stories on the real experiences of working on "Sam & Cat" that she wrote about even nearly getting her chance to finally show her directing skills only to be taken away from her at the eleventh-hour filming on set of S&C as they shattered her dreams while Nickelodeon tried to bribe her with a $300,000 hush money settlement for not going public about her experiences working with the network as she did the right thing on turning down after them protecting a predator for so very long.
The biological father twist was a huge twist to and how her cancer-stricken mom died while lying to her for her entire life even from beyond the grave disgusted me even more that she was forced to be the perfect daughter for a mom who I might as well say, "The ULTIMATE NARCISSIST Mother from Hell that could Joan Crawford a run for her money" and the journey of actually meeting her real father.
It was like sitting down and having coffee with Jennette as I was moved by her story and her finally getting her long-needed vindication with the difficulties of being a former child star and getting to share her story to the world and telling a true statement and reason why she doesn't want to return to the show that made her a household name and I don't blame her even after reading this blockbuster of an read with the amount of anxiety that has been stuck with her for years while living in an image that she didn't fit in with and never getting to experience her childhood courtesy of her own mother.
I admire Jennette's strength and determination for having to write this book even if it isn't for everyone and the amount of hours and years of healing. I say this from one writer to another, YOU HAVE A NATURAL TALENT FOR WRITING AND I'M SO READY FOR MORE OF YOUR FUTURE WORK WITH THIS NEXT STEP.
I GIVE THIS BOOK, 11 OUT OF 10 STARS AND TO BE HONEST, 1 BILLION STARS OUT OF 5 as a huge fan of her work and so many mad props and many positive praises that I won't be able to list about my life for this book cause Jennette McCurdy is one hell of an storyteller and I totally wish that I could meet her and give her a nice huge hug with my list of congratulations on how I really, really loved this book to which I'm sure she might be reading this review. :)
After reading this, I too am strongly glad that her mother died too and I have been hyped for this book for months and it is finally here as I totally hope others can read her story despite the overwhelming demand for this book and I hope you can see things in a different light after you read this masterpiece of a book along with some of the finest cover art I have seen in quite a long time with the most UNORTHODOX but really the greatest book title I have ever seen in years of all my life growing up reading books and all of 2022.
Already planning to re-read it again and again and planning to get the audiobook to fully experience this with her narration. GET THIS BOOK ASAP AND I'm glad her mom died also.
I totally hope the success of this book will make Hollywood really wake up about former child stars being mistreated for different reasons and having their stories being told like Jennette's while putting Dan Schneider once and for all behind bars while we're at it for all the crimes he also committed toward her.
Parenting is a profession;
Certain behaviours in a parent/child relationship cannot be excused by good intentions;
Parenting failures can have lifelong consequences for the physical and mental well-being of your children;
Respect and loyalty do not come automatically with parenthood, any more than they do with rank or position;
Any interference with the natural process of puberty is child abuse;
Narcissistic behaviours by parents are killers of parent/child relationships;
Complete openness and transparency in a parent/child relationship are vital; and
Last but not least, there is a world of difference between attention-seeking and awareness-raising.
Various posts on social media about I’M GLAD MY MUM DIED clearly convey the message that Jennette McCurdy is perceived by some to be an attention-seeker. Everyone is entitled to his/her own view, but I for one find this worrying. Would an attention-seeker write a book about a mother who wiped her daughter’s backside when she (the daughter) was 8? And who made her daughter shower with her brothers when she was 11 and they were 16 “because she didn’t want her to grow up”? And who attempted to stop her daughter’s breasts from developing by means of calorie restriction? And who performs regular examinations of her daughter’s breasts and vagina just to see if there are any lumps or bumps? And who failed to tell her daughter that her “father” was not in fact her biological father? One is reminded of what the late great Oliver Hardy said in the feature film SONS OF THE DESERT, after he and his pal Stan Laurel have lied to their wives about going to Honolulu and being shipwrecked; “It’s too far-fetched NOT to be the truth.” The narrative of this book is most definitely not that of an attention-seeker and Jennette deserves kudos for acknowledging, albeit only after the death of her mother Debra, that she (Jennette) had her on a pedestal. “I was conditioned to believe any boundary I wanted was a betrayal of her, so I stayed silent.” In writing this book, Jennette sets the record straight in a very convincing and down-to-earth manner.
The consequences of parenting failures on a child cannot be overstated. For Jennette, they led to bulimia and alcohol abuse, which led to loss of teeth and, believe it or not, weight gain. They also led to reliance on a therapist whose advice was objectively not the best. “Your mother was only doing the best for you, Jennette,” says Laura, her therapist, making the same mistake as Jennette herself did for many years. Jennette sensibly dumps her.
For every attention-seeker there are at least three awareness-raisers. Jennette McCurdy is 100% in the latter category and her book is all the more readable for it. Every prospective parent needs to read it. If it saves just one child from the abuse that Jennette suffered, it will be worth its weight in gold. A full five-star rating from me.
Another case of a daughter having to carry their mother's trauma. A daughter asking for love and receiving confusing messages of unworthiness and abuse.
Jennette's account of the abuse she endured as a child, is heartbreaking yet her honesty refreshing. Anyone who has experienced the pain of that awakening, entering adulthood and realising that their childhood hasn't been normal, that their experiences are actually classified as abuse, will be able to connect with Jennette's words.
Jennette talks a lot about anorexia and bulimia which could potentially be a trigger for some. She is very honest and graphic about her struggles with bulimia.
If you, like me, were abused by a parent, you may get the feeling I got when reading this of not being alone. Though the types of abuse may differ, the feelings I had as a child were very similar.
I love how Jennette is helping normalise the fact that, just because someone gives you life, that doesn't mean that you owe them a thing if they choose to mistreat you. For so long we have been told as a society to worship and respect our parents, to speak negatively of a parent is looked down upon. It is ok to end contact with a parent that is abusive. If you set boundaries and they are not respected time and time again, that person doesn't deserve your time.
I received a birthday card just like the email Jennette received, telling me how bad of a daughter I was, and that I was being disowned. It hurt tremendously.
I'm so happy that Jenette is living her own life now and making her own choices. It gives me strength to see how well she is doing. The book has made me want to carry on with my therapy and healing process. She makes it clear that unpacking all the emotional trauma, facing it, understanding why it happened and the realisation that, its not your fault, is the best way to move forward.
You can never fully understand why a parent abuses their child but you CAN reach that point where you know, as the child, it's not your fault. It's not on you, you were not the one with a problem that needed fixing. That's the important part.
On top of that it is very well written, easy to read in spite of the difficult subject matter, extremely engaging. It makes it clear, if the well known trajectories of other child stars have not, that tv and film need to seriously reform how they use child actors or not use them at all. I wish Jeannette McCurdy all the success in the world as a writer and director.
Jenny writes honestly and whilst there are glimmers of humour, there is no glamorising or watering down the real truth. These two things she mainly goes through are horrible, soul crushing and life changing and to be along this journey and see the progress was an honour.
I’m glad she’s on a path to recovery and I too, am glad her Mom died.