I'm Glad My Mom Died Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
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A heartbreaking and hilarious memoir by iCarly and Sam & Cat star Jennette McCurdy about her struggles as a former child actor—including eating disorders, addiction, and a complicated relationship with her overbearing mother—and how she retook control of her life.
Jennette McCurdy was six years old when she had her first acting audition. Her mother’s dream was for her only daughter to become a star, and Jennette would do anything to make her mother happy. So she went along with what Mom called “calorie restriction,” eating little and weighing herself five times a day. She endured extensive at-home makeovers while Mom chided, “Your eyelashes are invisible, okay? You think Dakota Fanning doesn’t tint hers?” She was even showered by Mom until age sixteen while sharing her diaries, email, and all her income.
In I’m Glad My Mom Died, Jennette recounts all this in unflinching detail—just as she chronicles what happens when the dream finally comes true. Cast in a new Nickelodeon series called iCarly, she is thrust into fame. Though Mom is ecstatic, emailing fan club moderators and getting on a first-name basis with the paparazzi (“Hi Gale!”), Jennette is riddled with anxiety, shame, and self-loathing, which manifest into eating disorders, addiction, and a series of unhealthy relationships. These issues only get worse when, soon after taking the lead in the iCarly spinoff Sam & Cat alongside Ariana Grande, her mother dies of cancer. Finally, after discovering therapy and quitting acting, Jennette embarks on recovery and decides for the first time in her life what she really wants.
Told with refreshing candor and dark humor, I’m Glad My Mom Died is an inspiring story of resilience, independence, and the joy of shampooing your own hair.
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|Listening Length||6 hours and 26 minutes|
|Audible.ca Release Date||August 09 2022|
|Publisher||Simon & Schuster Audio|
|Best Sellers Rank|| #20 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) |
#1 in Dysfunctional Relationships (Books)
#1 in Family Health
#1 in Parenting & Families (Audible Books & Originals)
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A superbly well written book on the trials and tribulations of a co dependent relationship between a mother and daughter.
So happy Jeanette found happiness, she truly deserves it!
Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on January 28, 2023
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Parenting is a profession;
Certain behaviours in a parent/child relationship cannot be excused by good intentions;
Parenting failures can have lifelong consequences for the physical and mental well-being of your children;
Respect and loyalty do not come automatically with parenthood, any more than they do with rank or position;
Any interference with the natural process of puberty is child abuse;
Narcissistic behaviours by parents are killers of parent/child relationships;
Complete openness and transparency in a parent/child relationship are vital; and
Last but not least, there is a world of difference between attention-seeking and awareness-raising.
Various posts on social media about I’M GLAD MY MUM DIED clearly convey the message that Jennette McCurdy is perceived by some to be an attention-seeker. Everyone is entitled to his/her own view, but I for one find this worrying. Would an attention-seeker write a book about a mother who wiped her daughter’s backside when she (the daughter) was 8? And who made her daughter shower with her brothers when she was 11 and they were 16 “because she didn’t want her to grow up”? And who attempted to stop her daughter’s breasts from developing by means of calorie restriction? And who performs regular examinations of her daughter’s breasts and vagina just to see if there are any lumps or bumps? And who failed to tell her daughter that her “father” was not in fact her biological father? One is reminded of what the late great Oliver Hardy said in the feature film SONS OF THE DESERT, after he and his pal Stan Laurel have lied to their wives about going to Honolulu and being shipwrecked; “It’s too far-fetched NOT to be the truth.” The narrative of this book is most definitely not that of an attention-seeker and Jennette deserves kudos for acknowledging, albeit only after the death of her mother Debra, that she (Jennette) had her on a pedestal. “I was conditioned to believe any boundary I wanted was a betrayal of her, so I stayed silent.” In writing this book, Jennette sets the record straight in a very convincing and down-to-earth manner.
The consequences of parenting failures on a child cannot be overstated. For Jennette, they led to bulimia and alcohol abuse, which led to loss of teeth and, believe it or not, weight gain. They also led to reliance on a therapist whose advice was objectively not the best. “Your mother was only doing the best for you, Jennette,” says Laura, her therapist, making the same mistake as Jennette herself did for many years. Jennette sensibly dumps her.
For every attention-seeker there are at least three awareness-raisers. Jennette McCurdy is 100% in the latter category and her book is all the more readable for it. Every prospective parent needs to read it. If it saves just one child from the abuse that Jennette suffered, it will be worth its weight in gold. A full five-star rating from me.
Another case of a daughter having to carry their mother's trauma. A daughter asking for love and receiving confusing messages of unworthiness and abuse.
Jennette's account of the abuse she endured as a child, is heartbreaking yet her honesty refreshing. Anyone who has experienced the pain of that awakening, entering adulthood and realising that their childhood hasn't been normal, that their experiences are actually classified as abuse, will be able to connect with Jennette's words.
Jennette talks a lot about anorexia and bulimia which could potentially be a trigger for some. She is very honest and graphic about her struggles with bulimia.
If you, like me, were abused by a parent, you may get the feeling I got when reading this of not being alone. Though the types of abuse may differ, the feelings I had as a child were very similar.
I love how Jennette is helping normalise the fact that, just because someone gives you life, that doesn't mean that you owe them a thing if they choose to mistreat you. For so long we have been told as a society to worship and respect our parents, to speak negatively of a parent is looked down upon. It is ok to end contact with a parent that is abusive. If you set boundaries and they are not respected time and time again, that person doesn't deserve your time.
I received a birthday card just like the email Jennette received, telling me how bad of a daughter I was, and that I was being disowned. It hurt tremendously.
I'm so happy that Jenette is living her own life now and making her own choices. It gives me strength to see how well she is doing. The book has made me want to carry on with my therapy and healing process. She makes it clear that unpacking all the emotional trauma, facing it, understanding why it happened and the realisation that, its not your fault, is the best way to move forward.
You can never fully understand why a parent abuses their child but you CAN reach that point where you know, as the child, it's not your fault. It's not on you, you were not the one with a problem that needed fixing. That's the important part.
On top of that it is very well written, easy to read in spite of the difficult subject matter, extremely engaging. It makes it clear, if the well known trajectories of other child stars have not, that tv and film need to seriously reform how they use child actors or not use them at all. I wish Jeannette McCurdy all the success in the world as a writer and director.
Jennette takes us through her career as a child actress and how she was forced into the industry by her abusive mother. While our lives are completely different, I found I resonated with Jennette’s experiences on such a personal level. It’s startling to think so many of us have experienced such similar cycles of abuse that contributed to our childhood traumas and how we now function as adults.
I was also extremely impressed with Jennette’s writing style; she is eloquent, witty and her writing flows beautifully. The chapters were also short and snappy but packed a punch which I love as I found I was able to fly through the book in two days. The only reason I am not giving it 5 stars is because I don’t think it’s a book I’ll ever read again. That said, Jennette’s story and her journey towards healing is one that will, no doubt, stay with me for a long time.
I'm not sure how this book is supposed to be funny...
I found it brave, candid and extremely sad.
My own experience with Child Abuse differs in a lot of ways, but is also shockingly similar in others.
As a teenager, before I had ever had sex, my Mom asked me if I was Pregnant bc I had eaten a bacon double cheeseburger.
At times, this book felt like an extension of my own Therapy and it cemented that I am still very much on my own healing journey, as I'm sure Jennette is.
So many times, I cried bc I understand on a deep level. When her Therapist Laura hugged her and said, "I know, baby. I know." I full on sobbed. We all deserve that.
I was pleasantly surprised by her friendship with Miranda, and a little bit confused by the Acknowledgements.
No book is perfect, but this one helped a little.
Thank you, Jennette.