I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power Audible Audiobook – Unabridged
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
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|Listening Length||10 hours and 44 minutes|
|Audible.ca Release Date||December 16 2010|
|Best Sellers Rank|| #303 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) |
#10 in Women's Health (Books)
#11 in The Self, Ego & Personality
#14 in Mental Health (Audible Books & Originals)
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Would definitely recommend to someone who wants to make a change!
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I also found the stories of shame experiences she included very unrealistic; almost all of them were of straight white middle class mothers feeling shame over their housework and being less than super-patient with their kids. She seemed to completely miss the experiences of men, working class people, those who aren’t parents and LGBT people. I think this was perhaps more from inexperience than done deliberately, but it meant the book missed a huge amount of potential; as it is so unrepresentative I feel only a very small number of people will be able to relate to what she is saying. As a gay woman who grew up poor and has no children I certainly couldn’t.
so I get to it today after finishing one of her other books which was the first ever book I read of hers.. only to find that within a written review included in the book, the word 'woman' popped up and I immediately thought, hang on, is this book aimed at woman then? as its one of those statements that gets you thinking
so I get into the introduction of the book and there was the confirmation, this book is aimed at woman.
and it is such a shame cos not only am I now not going to continue to read it, there is nothing on the title or back cover that let's you know its for 'WOMEN'..
and I don't think anyone could feel justified reading a book if it only has one specific audience.
Sad that it goes to the charity pile.