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Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by [Sherrie Eldridge]
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As both an adoptee and president of Jewel Among Jewels Adoption Network, Eldridge brings an original approach to the topic of adoption. In an attempt to inform adoptive parents of the unique issues adoptees face, she discusses adoptee anger, mourning, and shame and adoption acknowledgment while using case studies to illustrate how parents can better relate to their adopted child. This book is solidly written but not without its flaws; most importantly, it lacks information concerning child development, e.g., whether parents should use the same approach to questions with a three-year-old as with a 14-year-old. Still, this book will go well in any collection dealing with adoption, complementing David M. Brodzinsky's Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self (Anchor, 1993) and Joyce Maguire Pavao's The Family of Adoption (Beacon, 1998).AMee-Len Hom, Hunter Coll. Lib., New York
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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"Birthdays may be difficult for me."

"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."

"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."

"I am afraid you will abandon me."

The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame.

With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents.

Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B000SEFDJG
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Delta; Reissue edition (Oct. 5 2009)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 2083 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 242 pages
  • Customer Reviews:
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For well over two decades, Sherrie Eldridge has offered her unique voice within the adoption community, as an established author and international speaker. From speaking to Bejing orphanage workers, government officials, and police officers, to educating parents and orphanage workers in Thailand,to traveling throughout the U.S. and Canada to speak, Sherrie has been amazed at the opportunities she’s been given to share her adoptee heart. A parent from Puerto Rico said, “Sherrie has a beautiful heart because she’s willing to tell me what my daughter may experience while growing up adopted.” In addition, Sherrie’s identity is strong. She knows who she is and Whom she belongs to. An adoptee herself, Eldridge is akin to an adoptee whisperer, coaching adoptive and foster parents how to gently approach their traumatized children and develop intimacy. Sherrie’s skill and insights didn’t come from books, but from the anvil of her own adoptee heart. From adoption at ten days of age, she spent time with orphans from the Children’s Home that her adoptive grandmother managed. It was there that she interacted with homeless kids of all colors, shapes, and backgrounds. To this day, she’s in contact with several. Sales for her best-seller, TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW, currently exceeds 220,000 copies and has been translated into French, Spanish, and Japanese. Sherrie has run the gamut of experiences as an adopted person–traumatic relinquishment, only child, RAD, successful and unsuccessful birth family reunions, strained relationship with her adoptive mom. In spite of the painful parts, she wouldn’t change a thing. Why? Because song birds learn to sing in the night. Sherrie’s approach to writing and speaking is positive, yet she states that losing one’s first family produces the deepest of suffering for both birth mothers and their children. In her thinking, physical adoption is society’s way of caring for orphaned children. Spiritual adoption is not the same and many Christians have wounded adoptees by equating the two. Therefore, Sherrie is “pro-adoption,” for it is the only system we have currently for unwed mothers and children, even though archaic and broken. She maintains that all parts of the adoption triad–adoptees, birth mothers, adoptive mothers– must offer mutual respect and honor. If wounding one another occurs instead, it’s an indicator that healing is needed for both mothers and adoptees. Currently, she is working on another book-another 20 THINGS, which focuses on the mother/child relationship in adoptive families. Moms will learn why instilling love in their children’s brains is not dependent on the child’s level of receptivity. She will share her own story of recovery from her painful past and the steps others can take to discover the same healing.

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