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OK. I like this book better than Vol. 1. Maybe that’s because I’ve done some scene play with friends over a few years. As a reviewer (I’ll mention something about me as the author tells you NOTHING about himself: age, town, yrs in the scene, blah, nothing blah. It would be a better book if he revealed something.)
I’m new to being a Master but I’ve put in some Dom time. Let me count them...hmmm. Seven. I’ve done scene play with seven different play partners and private parties, dungeons and such. To be fair then I maybe I should have started with Vol. 2. as Vol 1. is directed at newbies.
The best take away for me so far from Vol. 2 is found in Chapter four where Larocco says that one of the key pleasures the Dom or Master delivers in a scene to his sub is the “pleasure of not thinking.” Nice. Good description of subspace, too. And what a great scene goal! So the author gets this right. It is a great pleasure and it takes skill to deliver this not thinking place to the sub.
I don’t agree with the author however that it is pleasure or sexual pleasure that is the whole point in BDSM relationships or scene play. Or even intimacy, the whole point of kink. (Kink: a word he never uses in Vol. 1 and 2. Not sure what this means.) Some people in the scene don’t like what most would view as intimacy; run from it in a scene even, “Red!” out even at intimacy, even non sexual intimacy. Or just have intimate conversations, visuals, acts on the “No” side of their Play List; no sexual touching. "No intimacy stuff". Yes, Larocco. Happens.
Another good set of take aways? Larocco’s thoughts in Ch. 7; on discipline, punishment and reward. All were very clear, insightful and helpful. He’s obviously garnered some personal experience and scene time; even though he tells us NOTHING about his experiences: where, when, how, why. Mystery here.
I see what the Dom finds and delivers is a connection. Most scene folk want more than just sex or pleasure; my take at least. Larocco hints at this but calls the connection “pleasure”; and yet not all connections are pleasurable! If you doubt this I'll give you my in-laws cell number.
I think most people find the good and hot and meaningful connection the thing, not pleasure or sex. Yes, it is sexual energy by and large that is being played with to produce this; but the connection is where the zing lives.
Glad I bought this book as a budding Master. A better pic than Vol. 1; for the intermediate Dom/Master, I'd say.
Good reference material, or for people wanting to know more who may be exploring, this could be a good starting point to answer some basics. Also............. Note: NO BOOK WILL MAKE YOU A "TOP" OR "DOM" - PLEASE GET TRAINING FROM A PROFESSIONALLY TRAINED EXPERT. Note: PLEASE KNOW IT TAKES SEVERAL *YEARS* INVESTMENT TO LEARN & PRACTICE THIS MATERIAL WITH OVERSIGHT FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS WHAT THEY'RE DOING TO AVOID ABUSE & HARM.