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Dedeker Winston is incredibly knowledgeable of non monogamy and healthily relationships; she has also clearly refined her book to a very high level of concision in the editing process. Of all of the books that I have read on polyamory, this one sticks out for having a perfect balance of technically knowledge and practical application. It does not feel like a textbook, however it is filled with information. I believe anyone could pick up this book and easily comprehend what she is talking about. it is clear in her writing that she is cognizant of the variety of people that would find value on her book and she writes as inclusively as possible. I feel that this is one of the best books to give to someone that does not yet understand polyamory or wants to improve their relationships. I have already given this book to three people and I am sure that I will gift it to more in the future.
Winston’s practical guide is useful not just for those practicing polyamory, but really for anyone who wants to improve their communication skills and learn about different relationship models. With exercises drawing on Buddhist thought in every chapter, Winston’s guide is a straightforward but not silly read that empowers you to define your romantic life by asking yourself questions. Winston writes, “‘What is love to me? What am I going to do about it?’ The answer may always be a moving target, shifting and swaying and making sudden left turns.”
As a frequent listener of the Multiamory podcast, of which the author is a co-host, much of the content in the book was familiar ground to me. I say that not as a complaint but as a compliment: the podcast as a whole has consistently delivered at providing practical, even-handed, and thoughtful commentary on topics relating to polyamory and non-monogamy. This translates well into the written form as well.
Other mainstream books on polyamory are often criticized as being either too rah-rah (The Ethical Slut) or too gloom-and-doom (More Than Two). I don't know that I would necessarily agree on that point myself, but The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory does take a nicely realistic and balanced view of the positives and negatives, the benefits and the pitfalls.
Dedeker Winston's writing is friendly and approachable, commonly drawing from her own personal experiences and those of her close circles; the text avoids being too heavily bogged down by jargon while still being informative to newbies at describing the ever-growing lexicon unique to the non-monogamy community.
While I'm neither a girl nor particularly smart, I am happy to say that The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory was well worth the read, and I'd very much recommend it to anyone who is just beginning to get their feet wet in the often confusing waters of non-monogamy as well as to experienced practitioners who might want to use the book (and its useful homework assignments) as a refresher.
I loved this book, the authors approach to self exploration and management of ones own beliefs is really caring and warm and encouraging. I’ve learned a lot about my own understanding of love and sex just by completing the exercises held within the chapters. Really eye opening and was nice to read something that gave experience to my own private thoughts 💖
The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory shows the power of intentional relationships. Dedeker Winston shows herself to be intelligent, compassionate, vulnerable, literate, and funny. When I finished the book, I wanted to run off to wherever she is and join her tribe. We are blessed that she was able to transcend her wholesome conservative Christian upbringing to become an activist for alternative relationships. Her message is clear: women (actually everyone) can and should understand what they want and need and then actively craft relationships that meet their needs.