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Disappointing. The author uses the slur tr*nny several times (on the dedication page, and several times in one chapter) as if it’s a casual term of endearment. I honestly wanted to continue reading the book, but I couldn’t get past that.
Not a huge fan of this missive. We have been working on expanding our family, and while this book offers lesbian-centric info, it’s very dated. (Think “L-Word 2005” type dated.) If you’re desperate for queer-pregnancy literature, maybe borrow this from the library instead of spending your hard earned dough.
When my wife and I were trying to get pregnant I was desperate for anything about lesbian motherhood. This just wasn't the book for me. A lot has changed since the book was published and some of the information, scenarios, and suggestions are a little weird (there's something about going out to visit a different city and sleeping around with a bunch of men to get pregnant?!) So if it's 2021 and you're in search for a lesbian pregnancy book, skip this one. It's not worth it.
I greatly enjoyed this book during my second pregnancy, and in fact I tracked it down and bought it just to read now even though my kids are teens, just because it was an interesting book. My favorite thing was how she gave spot-on advice regarding circumcision and the possibility of having an intersex child - in both cases, leave the child's genitals alone, as non-therapeutic cutting violates their human rights. Right on! In fact, circumcision is my litmus test for any pregnancy book. I look it up in the index, flip to that page, see what they say. If the book recommends cutting your baby for "health benefits" or if it takes the spineless way out and says parents should do "what's right for their family and traditions," I put that book right down. If they can't even get the most simple thing right (amputative surgery on a non-consenting person for non-therapeutic reasons is a human rights violation, an unnecessary health risk, and a violation of the Hippocratic Oath), then how can I trust ANYTHING they say in the whole book - things I'm *not* informed about and need to trust the author for information on? Rachel gets circumcision correct, so I know I can trust her information on the other topics. Plus, it's a very fun read, with personal anecdotes. Could use a little updating since laws and technology have changed since it was written.
I purchased this book a few years ago for the hope that my wife and I would someday use it. Well, that day came and we both took turns reading chapters before and during her pregnancy. I found the book to be really informative, and seemed to cover a vast array of topics. We learned some new things, as well as had the opportunity to read personal experiences, in which we could relate. It was a handy little guide to get us through our first lesbian pregnancy. Surely we'll refer to it again on our next pregnancy. I recommend it to others.
Some really good information. She doesn't go into extreme depths in most topics, but does suggest other places to get that information.
She has very strong and obvious opinions about things such as natural child birth, breast feeding, and circumcision. If your personal values vary from hers those parts of the book can be a little frustrating to read.
Other than that it was a quick, entertaining, informative read. Her laid back tone and quotes from people who have been their keep this book feeling very personal.
It's a tiny bit out of date at this point, but it really has all the basics it needs. A great book to read from the start of your journey if you are a lesbian (or even a single mom by choice...or both) trying to conceive. It will give you a solid foundation to move forward with.
This book was helpful in many ways, but here are a couple ways it wasn't. It is written by a woman who is not married to her partner and before same sex marriage was legal in as many states so as a married woman in MA there were a couple themes that I did not relate (ex. partner not 100% part of process) it was definitely refreshing to read about IUI, ICI and family planning from the perspective of a lesbian though, because so many resources are Herero focused.